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After a year and a half having horrible experiences with public speaking, I just decided I have to stop this. Whenever I have a presentation at school, or I have to read out loud for the whole class, I become extremely nervous and I start shaking and my voice is like "broken" and you know. Thing is, Im not normally like this. Im outgoing, talkative, and all that. But when I have to talk in front of a bunch of people I just cant handle it. Tomorrow I have a presentation, and worst of all, many of my friends are in that class. I dont want them to think im a dumb shy retarded kid.
But the most important thing, is that I have a big SELF-CONCIOUSNESS because of my english. I have lived in the US for a couple of years and even though I know english, I become really scared about what people are thinking about me while I speak, if im doing it right, if I pronnounce the words right and thats what causes my nervousness. Then I see how people stare at me with that look of "Oh my God that kid is so nervous/is shaking/is dumb" or whatever and that makes me even more nervous.
I dont know what to do, even the thought of it makes me nervous. This all started in 9h grade, before I used to be normal. I was probably the one who participated the most and I didnt care at all what people thought. And now that I know more english… What the hell can I do???
EXTREMELY NERVOUS WHEN TALKING TO A GROUP OF PEOPLE–SHAKE WHEN NERVOUS–"BROKEN" VOICE– SLEF CONCIUS ABOUT ENGLISH PRONNUNCIATION– CARE A LOT ABOUT WHAT PEOPLE ARE THINKING
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Wow, a simple answer for once lol
You’re typing English just fine, you’re getting the point across just fine, you’re even getting into psychology, in English, just fine, and you’re open and outgoing with your – I’m just guessing here lol – FRIENDS…
I, being a public-speaking attention-whore, will tell you this:
You over-think ANYthing, be it a meeting, a toothache, a driving test, a midterm, a locust, a date OR, LEAST OF ALL a SPEECH where you KNOW everyone likes you?
You are in control. You have the info, the knowledge, and you are passing it on to them.
You are the authority on (whatever your talk is on).
And yes, it’s a talk. And there will be questions, and you will have the answers.
Forget the past, and look to the future, or even the present.
Anyone can psych themselves out, or choose not to.
Hell, Abe Lincoln failed three (3) times before becoming Prez.
Up to you, kid…
i heard that you can imagine the audience listening and looking at you, imagine they are all naked!!!! LOL! hope this helps!
Its flo rida
as long as you don’t say anything offensive including racial, religious or sexist claims, you’ll be fine. before saying anything personal, just be sure to own your own words. accept that you are unique. and that’s pretty much it.
i HAD the same problem in 8th grade i just had to keep telling myself that they prob. wont care and if they start to laugh,laugh along and be outgoing when talking thats what i did when ppl laughed at my lisp and it helped me and then i had to picture them being more of a retard than i was for laughin at ME and thaat helped alot too!
Hey! Nervous happens to the best of us. You should practice in the mirror like 3 times before you have to do it… you should also write it and say what you are writing while your writing it will help a lot. If you are having trouble with a word then either break it down or go to Dictionary.com and type the word in and hear its pronounced. Oh yea and bump what ppl think… that make mistake too.
Much of luck too you.
When you give your presentation tomorrow, do not think about what the students are thinking. Focus instead on what you are talking about. Try focusing more on the teacher or one person who seems to be paying attention.
I know that giving presentations is hard. Though I think most people look dull and dumb during a presentation. Usually I try to make the presentation more interesting, and try to engage them. But at the same time, this could easily disappoint me. I’ve been on stage a lot, performing different things, and for the longest time I really did not like giving presentations. I’m a junior in college, and because of the weaker members in my group, I have become better.
So focus on your presentation. You are talking about a certain subject and you want people to listen to you. They are your audience, and you are presenting them with knowledge about something that you worked on. Make your goal presenting the best information to your class. Not to please them. You may have more success that way.
By the way, you can use your friends as targets to focus on. And they may be more responsive than others. Who knows?
Good luck tomorrow!
English is a very forgiving language, you figured this out in 9th grade when you made lots of mistakes in your English and made friends. People understood you even if your English wasn’t perfect back then and it got better because you kept practicing and trying. Don’t change that now. The only way to get over your fear of making mistakes is to make them, it’s only English. What’s most important is that you communicate and get some of those thoughts in your head out into the open. Stop living so much in your head and live more out loud. If you can write as well as you do in a non-native language then you must speak it even better. Don’t worry about pronounciation, all your friends will help you and later in life, everyone will flock to you because of your cute accent when you speak.
Try to find something like Toastmasters where the goal is to start simple and give speeches. Try to find a way to help people via volunteering so that you are more concerned about them, than about yourself. You may try to work with the elderly, say reading to those in a home – you will get to practice speaking out loud with a pretty uncritical audience. You will also learn really cool things from the older folks that will be useful now and later in life.
Good luck.